“When Love Lies: Deception, Trust & The Real Truth About Relationships” 💔➡️❤️
- Michele Renee
- Aug 23, 2025
- 6 min read
DECEPTion RELATion written on October 25, 2017
People. We are each a unique soul that exists in this world! 🌎✨
Life ~ is a problem; it is NOT the solution.
We are created~
We create~
We learn~ as we observe~
We experiment~
Along the way we get screwed~
or misCONStrued!
Life hurts at times, I mean sometimes just getting out of bed and dressed is a triumph.
“Sometimes the bravest and most important thing you can do is just show up.” – Brené Brown
📊 Psych fact: According to the National Institute of Mental Health, nearly 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. experience mental health challenges each year, and one of the first symptoms is often the struggle with daily activities like getting out of bed or maintaining routines. That’s not weakness, that’s the human condition.
I think it is good to look back and learn from our hard falls and realize just how far we have come.
Recently, I have noticed more and more people are not what they seem to be; there are a lot of fronts, fakes, and phoneys.
📊 Relationship stat: Studies show that 60% of people admit to lying at least once in a new relationship, often to make themselves look better (Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 2017). And while “little lies” may seem harmless, research shows that when deception becomes a pattern, trust deteriorates faster than it can be rebuilt.
We are forever getting hurt, sometimes it is intentional by people who suck, or the person who you thought was a friend…
🧠 Psych insight: According to Dr. John Gottman, one of the leading marriage and relationship researchers, trust is the single biggest predictor of relationship success. Once deception creeps in, couples are four times more likely to experience lasting resentment and emotional distance.
Sometimes we get hurt as a consequence due to our own stupidity, and sometimes it is just a natural part of life to strengthen us, teach us a lesson we have yet learned.
“Trust is built with consistency.” – Lincoln Chafee
“It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it.” – Warren Buffett
🧠 Psychologists call this “social trust,” and studies show that communities and individuals with high levels of trust report greater happiness and lower stress (Harvard Study of Adult Development, 2021).
The wise say ~ be ready, vigilant, we are all just in training for our ultimate victory ~ the final plan; “our purpose” what we are here on earth for ~ our destiny.
I think what I have been learning lately is that while it may seem protective to resist, that is a lie. Don’t resist anything that is thrown your way; you are strong, you are magnificent; God didn’t create a mistake. Talk about the disappointments, admit the fall outs, admit your own weaknesses ~ because if you don’t, it will literally eat you up inside.
You can’t achieve a better relationship if you don’t know exactly what is working and/or what isn’t working. We need to know and understand what needs to be eliminated or added; being specific with yourself is crucial or the goal will not be met. Ideas may flow easily but making the improvements takes a conscious working effort.
🧠 Psychology note: Carl Jung once said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” That’s why self-honesty and reflection are critical in both healing and relationships.
The past has NO POWER over the present moment. 🌅
Whatever it is you are facing today, whatever it is that is causing you to be sad, don’t allow it any longer. Don’t be in denial about the truth that is yours or about accepting a different truth after further understanding.
We are supposed to be helpful but also know when someone understands what we do not. Listen with an open mind, forget for a moment preconceived notions. When someone you love is trying to share with you, realize how blessed you are that they want to help and care.
What you end up understanding is your reality. And if you are in any loving relationship with another, you know that sometimes their reality is so different. But don’t keep your eyes closed; and don’t allow them to close theirs; because love is too beautiful. 💕
When people resist, it is very noticeable. You should flow together like a wonderful dance. And if you will never dance like you want, it is obvious from the start, from the get-go.
But how beautiful it is when someone is so willing to learn your steps. ❤
💔 Survey fact: About 22% of relationships end due to dishonesty or hidden behaviors (American Psychological Association survey, 2020). Distrust doesn’t just “happen”; it grows in the space where honesty should have been.
“A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.”
Always keep around the ones who make tomorrow even better than today.
Peace is the ONLY battle worth waging! 🕊️
I love to learn. My way is not always the best way (a lot of times it is 😏), but sometimes I learn my greatest lessons from my own kids!
We are blessed and cursed to have a whole internet full of information, so many opinions, so many truths, and just about the same number of lies. But we all know the best answer always is found within; trust your instincts.
👶 The “real stuff” like love, understanding, friendship, laughter, fairness, trust is all found in the innocence of a child. Trust the child to remind you what you need to hold onto.
And while looking down to the little ones is always better, always know that looking UP is the BEST option ~ God understands what we have yet to. Pray and ask, you will receive. The strength you need will increase to infinite bounds.
The lesson will never be understood and learned while emotionally angry or defensive; so get the feelings out-of-the-way and begin to express and try to understand. Sometimes it takes a break or a few to get emotions under control.
💡 Psych stat: Couples who take “time outs” during conflict and return after 20–30 minutes show higher resolution rates and less long-term resentment (Gottman Institute, 2018).
The greatest distance between two people will always be ~ MISUNDERSTANDING.
If you want to have the best relationship with those you love there are 2 ways to get it:
Way 1 ~ Work hard every day on staying connected, and understanding the similarities and the differences you all share.
Way 2 ~ Give, respect, and realize the other person is perfect just the way they are. It is up to only YOU to worry about changing yourself for the better ~ only to be happier for the moment after.
EVERYTHING you desire should be what you already have in front of you!
🌻 “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” – Eckhart Tolle
Those little things that you know your other likes, give, give, give! You don’t keep a scorecard. You don’t do it and put it on hold until it happens again. You do it over and over, again and again. Perfect people don’t exist. Find out if this is the one who makes you happy, and help each other as we really help our own self.
The people worthy to be in your life are those ones who stood by you during the hard times, and laughed with you once they passed.
Practicing forgiveness is something I wonder if I will ever get a grasp on. I consider myself very understanding, but I know we all fail at times. There are times we are weak, tired, and just allow a side of us to exist that we have never seen before.
The act of forgiveness is one of the greatest displays of love that is the price Jesus paid for me and you; so that we would be forgiven. And in the end, He still chose to forgive those who hurt Him the most.
📖 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful & just & will forgive us of our sins. We will be purified from all unrighteousness.” – 1 John 1:9
Finding Peace ✨
Peace is not just the quiet place where troubles vanish. Peace is also in the everyday hustle. It’s the calm in your mind and heart; the thoughts that fill you with hope for happy days to follow.
Peace is in everyday miracles:
The warmth of the sun 🌞
The magical night sky 🌌
Surprise rain after a long run 🌧️
Holding a newborn baby 🤱
A vibrant field of flowers 🌸
Knowing someone has your back 🤝
Peace is recognizing your God-given talents and using them to make a positive difference.
When you find Peace in your heart and mind, the tranquility will leave you feeling drunk on happiness. You smile, you laugh, you aren’t afraid of being silly. Because all that matters is the very moment of joy.
⚡ Warning: Haters don’t like laughter. They will mock you, harass you, try in any way they can to make you leave and come into their world. But your joy is your shield.
“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” – Dalai Lama ✨
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