The Sisterhood that Saves Us (Again and Again)
- Michele Renee
- Aug 15, 2025
- 7 min read
Women! fRIENDS <3 originally written June 13, 2017
Everyone has a MOTHER~ in order to exist, you had a mother at some point who birthed you; we all came from a WOMAN.
Mothers,
Grandma’s,
Sisters,
Aunts,
daughters, and friends
this article is dedicating to those angels in our life… may we continue to find them, may we strive to be them!
This is a little article about women, friendship; and a few lessons learned along the way 😉 in just the past few days.
I love love LOVE women!
From as early as I can remember, GiRlS have made my life heaven & hell… but it has always been another girl who lifted me up, straightened me out, or guided me in some way. As early as I can remember, girls can be mean… I remember having issues with girls in middle school and high school who didn’t like me, and they straight up told me: “I don’t like you.” No reason. It’s O.K. I am not put on this earth to be liked by all 😉 and if you don’t like me, you clearly don’t understand me, and I don’t need you in my life at this moment.
*“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” —Eleanor Roosevelt*
I will advise my women: hold on to the goodness inside and don’t allow any other soul to make you hate. Do NOT become a follower and give in to what is easier.
*(Psych note: psychologists call this “values-based living” choosing actions that align with your core values even when it’s hard. It builds self-respect and resilience.)*
My grandmother is my Queen
my mother is my strength,
and my daughters are my weakness~
My Sisters In Christ remind me what the journey is all about on the daily;
and
My friends make the journey of LIFE all worthwhile.
*“Two are better than one… If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” Ecclesiastes 4:9–10*
Friendship is very important to me. I am the kind of friend who cherishes the few I allow in my life, which isn’t many. Time is valuable and we all know that… only the best get my time. Lately, it seems the sadness of losing more throughout the years keeps increasing, and I really need to make more time for those friends I continuously find myself putting on the back burner. I am understanding, but if you show me ONCE I can’t trust you, I believe you will show me again and again. The thing is, you will know I am a loyal friend who will be there for you always and keep you in my heart just like I do my own family members who are my treasures and I will guard with all I have….
*(Psych note: trust is built in “small moments.” Consistent honesty and reliability create felt safety. When trust breaks, our brains remember protecting us from repeating harm.)*
I don’t take a lot of time out to “have fun.” I have my responsibilities and they are plenty just like everyone else’s; but I do know the importance of making the time for those who are important; that is what relationships are all about.
To me as a friend, woman, person I find it very important to take out time and spend it with ALL the people who matter~
One of my friends,
wanted to take me out for my birthday a couple of days ago. WE always have a great time just connecting; that is the kind of friendship I adore…
laughing, de-stressing, ranting, letting it go, laughing some more, and finding solutions for life’s kicks in the butt,
*(Psych note: shared laughter releases endorphins and strengthens social bonds; co-regulation with safe people calms the nervous system and lowers stress.)*
let’s keep it real there are times in life we are involved in scandals, we are eating Ramen Noodles trying to survive… we wonder what is next in this roller coaster of a life??? I consider myself lucky when I realize I still have my good ol’ trusty friends from the beginning; who have been through so many stages of our lives together; and guess what we love each other MORE and more.
Friends laugh even if it’s just acting completely stupid together. Friends don’t have to make sense; they do what they feel and it’s OK… and the plus side is being a good friend is an example that you will pass on and on and on…
Make time for friendship connections; it’s important.
If we are friends in this life together if I consider you a friend you are extremely important to me. Friends really are important ~ when you have the right ones, and it’s true: life is so much better with them.
June 6 was my 43rd birthday, and me and a friend had been waiting all week for our date… I began our date getting dressed, ready to paint the town 😉, in all black like a vixen 😉 and nothing was gonna slow me down…
LOL, come on someone close to me would never let me go out like this with my “friend.” Seriously… that was a pic taken today. Here is our date night; I had to borrow a phone for the pic; so I didn’t get to take anymore.
No matter what we do, where we sit, what we eat, drink—we leave needing more of what we just had 😉
The truth is, we spend so much time worrying and fixing life’s mishaps; we really need to make the time to try hard to encourage one another and help in any way we can. Life really does kick us in the butt all on its own.
NO mountain is too high when you have awesome company climbing with you…
*“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” —Proverbs 27:17*
There is something really special about the bond of sisterhood and embracing and maybe even sometimes hating all the aspects of being a woman. It is amazing to be lifted by another woman whom you respect,
and then it’s so much more amazing when you realize they respect you too; and you take turns lifting each other up and up and up.
Women find ways to build each other’s strength, especially during those times we feel weak or less of a woman.
Friends know we make mistakes in this life because they do too, and the other people in their life do too and they still love you; they are NOT fooled by images or lies other people create about you;
and when you start to lose your own faith in yourself, when you feel ugly, they remind you of your beauty~
they remind you who you are!
They don’t find fault in you; they help you overcome those faults you face! You are always innocent in a friend’s eyes because they know your goodness the goodness that resides in you.
Friends don’t get jealous of what you accomplish; friends don’t silence your message~
Friends encourage you, and you, as well, remind them to show their beauty encourage them even when they don’t see it themselves… because friends are the most beautiful gifts in this life.
*“A friend loves at all times.” —Proverbs 17:17*
*“I am not free while any woman is unfree.” —Audre Lorde*
*“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” —Maya Angelou*
When you feel broken, they help mend you; they try hard because they care about your feelings because you are part of their heart.
My friend is a beautiful soul. We both find ourselves continuously being tested by life, and a lot of the times it is so hard and it seems unfair but we both keep helping everyone in our life who needs it, even when we ourselves are in need. I love you, my friend, and I hope you continue to give, give, give from your heart.
A few months back when I lost my home, I didn’t even have a cell phone, and a friend wanted to put me on a family phone plan because communication for jobs and between family is very important but I said NO; I couldn’t take that.
I am one who doesn’t like to take from people, but OH how I love to give… LOL. I want you to know how much it meant to me knowing I have friends who have my back even when they are struggling. I would never take advantage of anyone; ESPECIALLY a friend.
When we look around, we see so many blessed with abundance, and we watch people crave more and more; talk about DIVERSIONS! If you have enough food and a safe place to rest, you have enough; and if you are spiritually full you are RICH!
I watch friends whose loved ones just got out of the hospital and then almost burn themselves along with their apartment; and I can feel that heavy heart. Let me tell you, friend: don’t let any difficult hardship change you from the loving, giving woman you are. Jesus understands your struggle remember, He lived in poverty; and we, my friend, have enough more of the time.
I will continue on my life journey, along with my BFF’s, working for CHANGE ~ always positive! I know our responsibilities can be overwhelming, but trust in God that He has given you all you have because you are not only able to sustain yourself, but all those you care for.
Today I shared that the other day, during Adoration, I felt: if you ask God for help if you ask Him to send assistance then take it. Shortly after, a friend offered me another opportunity to help me with a phone. I took this assistance and am grateful; I will continue on what you have given me, my friend; I will give, give, give often, and then give some more.
Thanks for the help, my friend even if the carrier is fighting with the unlock 😉. Thanks for being a part of my life during a difficult time. Thanks for keeping the Trust in the Lord in your heart; it helps me remember when the devil tries to make me forget.
Thank you for having so much compassion for all God’s creatures and being a perfect role model in so many ways… you always have my respect because you are an inspiration; no matter what happens, girly, we pick up our cross and walk with it. I love you; let’s continue this journey laughing; when we are with each other, God said, WE SHALL Laugh! ❤
*“The quality of your relationships is the quality of your life.” —often summarized from long-term adult development research*
*“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” —Brené Brown*
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