Let Him Go, Queen He Wasn't Built to Carry You

Michele Renee
Jul 8, 2025
4 min read

Let Him Go, Queen 👑 He Wasn’t Built to Carry You

Originally posted October 1, 2015

Ladies let go of the men who bring you down. PLEASE.

We all deserve better. I’ve been guilty of settling, but never again.

Let me tell you why.

My daughter Marisa is extraordinary. Over the past few years, she has poured her heart and soul into helping others find their faith in God. And in doing so, she’s found peace in her own.

God saw something powerful in her. He believed she was the one for a mission that mattered and I had the honor of watching her rise to it. In 2015, Marisa and her best friend Luis led the St. Matt’s Teen A.C.T.S. Retreat with strength, wisdom, and a whole lot of heart.

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God paired two leaders who could guide a team to make a forever kind of difference. He knew Marisa could move mountains not just for herself, but for others. And He gave me the front-row seat to witness it.

She spent her final high school years giving her time, energy, and spirit to the Lord. Even in her toughest moments, she stayed faithful. I watched her speak to a room full of young women, sharing her testimony with raw vulnerability and courage.

And as I sat there, I knew her faith wasn’t just inspiring them it was reaching me, too.

She’s strong, radiant, loyal. She gives love without limits. And she learned that from watching me because I’ve always believed that loyalty is a core value we should never compromise.

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But here’s where it gets hard. I’ve also shown her what not to accept… by my own mistakes. I’ve let someone stay in my life who didn’t deserve to be there someone who disrespected me, manipulated me, and gave nothing close to the loyalty I gave them.

I told her she deserved better, and I meant it. But did I live it? Not always. And that’s a pain I carry.

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After some deep soul searching, I’ve grown but I know she’s been left with confusion. I taught her to give, to show up, to be all in. So how do you explain why someone wouldn’t be that for you?

If someone claims to love you but is missing from the important parts of your life, they’re not showing love they’re showing absence. That’s not partnership. That’s a placeholder. What exactly are you achieving in that relationship?

If you’re constantly being manipulated by someone with a sob story, someone who plays the eternal victim ...girl, you’re not in a relationship, you’re in a guilt trap. And that trap is built on lies, excuses, and the illusion of change.

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You tell them they’ve hurt you, and instead of taking responsibility, they twist it. They become the poor, misunderstood soul. And sadly, some people buy that story because they’ve been manipulated too.

If you're making excuses for them again and again, and you're no longer being lifted up that chapter is over. You know it.

If two years go by and you’re still unsure if you can count on them you already have your answer.

Life is too short to keep waiting for someone’s "better side" to appear. You need someone who matches your fire, mirrors your goals, and brings real growth into your life. You deserve a partner who respects you as much as you respect them.

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And can we talk about DOUCHEBAG behavior for a minute? The kind that only shows up when they want sex, then ghosts you like you’re invisible in daylight?

Yeah… no thanks.

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That’s not love. That’s access. That’s using someone to fill their own emotional black hole. And it usually comes with a sob story about how hard their life is even though their version of hardship is having their parents pay for everything while blaming them for all their bad decisions.

And every time they mess up? Another excuse. Another pity party. Another cycle.

Meanwhile, you're left feeling embarrassed because deep down, you know better. And others see it too.

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Stop shrinking your worth to fit into the lie they’re selling.

You’re a woman with a heart that cares, a mind that knows, and a soul that deserves. Don’t give another second of your time to someone who makes you feel like less. You deserve the kind of love that treats you like royalty not like a seasonal fling. 👑

Because here’s the thing:

Every lie you catch? There are more you haven’t found yet.

Trust your grown woman instincts not the butterflies of a schoolgirl crush. Love isn’t intensity. Love isn’t chaos. Love isn’t infatuation. Infatuation fades it always does.

And P.S. — if a man can disrespect your mother (or his own), guess what? He will never give you the respect you deserve either. If he walks into your home, ignores your parents, and acts like he owns the place while giving nothing back believe what you see. One day a father might not be so forgiving… and that’s when things get real. 🧨💥

And when they try to blame you, twist your words, or deflect the issue…

That’s not confusion that’s who they are.

And to any girl who thinks she “won” a cheater? Sweetheart, he’s only yours until the next one comes along.

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