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Hot Pink, Purple & Heartbreak: Marisa's Season of Becoming


Hot Pink, Purple, and the Power of Unconditional Love  Originally Written: August 2015


Marisa has decided to go with hot pink and purple… It’s bold. It’s beautiful. And honestly? It couldn’t be more perfect for where she’s at in her life right now.

I’ve noticed my blogs about Marisa get a lot of attention. Maybe it’s her friends checking in. Maybe it's fellow moms, daughters, sisters navigating similar seasons. Or maybe it's just curiosity. Either way I’m grateful. If you’re here, thank you for reading, for showing up, and for caring about the wild, messy, divine story that is my life. I love you for it.


Marisa’s been through a rough few months. She recently ended a long-term relationship with the boy she’d been with since she was 13, she is now 18. It came as a surprise, and the heartbreak was real. But sometimes… people have to go on their own to find what they’re meant to discover especially when they’re just beginning adulthood. I understand this more than she knows. I was in that exact same place at her age. Letting go wasn’t easy, but it was necessary. Self-discovery always is.


It’s all part of God’s plan. If you know me, you know I’m big on color deeply connected to it. I’ve been dying my hair since I was 15. I live for bold eyeshadow. I feel colors in my spirit.


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There’s real psychology behind them, and they speak when words fall short. And right now? Pink is screaming Marisa’s name.


Pink = Unconditional Love Unconditional love means affection without limitations. It means loving someone for who they are, not for what they give you. It doesn’t end after an argument, a breakup, or a change in circumstance. If someone triggers your fear, your love doesn't run. It stays. It seeks understanding. And even if life pulls you apart, that love keeps living quietly in your heart. If there were a poster child for unconditional love, it would be Marisa. It drives me a little crazy, honestly how forgiving she is. She’ll offer her heart to someone who’s hurt her simply because she loves deeply and fiercely. She remembers every beautiful memory. She hates goodbyes because her love is unending. She doesn’t hold bitterness. She prays for the happiness of those who’ve walked away. Even if they broke her. Even if they don’t deserve it. And if he called right now needing help? She’d drop everything to be there. And he knows it. Marisa taught me what unconditional love really meant the day she was born.



Pink = Nurturing & Compassion This girl was made to give. To love. To serve. Even when she herself is hurting, she shows up for others. I’ll never forget how, just days after her heart was shattered, she was asked to co-direct the 2015 St. Matt’s Teen ACTS Retreat. She could’ve said no. But she didn’t. She poured herself into that team. She gave her all. She led with grace and heart even when she came home each night and cried into her pillow. She was broken. But she kept showing up for others. That’s who she is.


Pink = Innocence + Strength Hot pink is my favorite because it represents childlike innocence with a flirty, fearless edge. Marisa just turned 18. It’s a powerful age. I want her to stay pink to keep that inner softness and openness. But I also want her to embrace the hot in hot pink: her confidence, her passion, her womanhood. Stay fresh. Stay fun. And never be ashamed of your passionate side, my girl. You are radiant.



Purple = Good Judgment & Spiritual Wisdom Purple is my favorite color. And I think it fits Marisa just as well. She doesn’t jump into things blindly. She thinks deeply. She prays. She listens to God. She seeks peace over chaos, wisdom over noise. Purple is the color of spiritual seeking and one of my favorite parts of our relationship is the way we talk about God together. Faith, hope, miracles, intuition… those conversations are sacred to me.


What These Colors Mean

Pink is made of red (action) and white (wisdom).

Use the wisdom you’ve gained to choose actions that make you soar. You know how I feel about all my broken moments they taught me more than any peaceful one ever did. Pain gave me perception. And now? I use it.


So Marisa, use your pain. Use it as a weapon for good. Let it make you wiser. Kinder. Stronger. And never fight for anything except love, truth, and peace.


Hope Lives in Pink and White Letting go of a dream is hard. But sometimes your dream lives on in another form in another soul. You deserve someone who wants all of you. Not just pieces. Not just on weekends. Someone who desires you emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically without fear, without hesitation. Hope is not just wishful thinking. Hope is confidence. Hope is trust. Hope is knowing someone will stay, and fight, and love you like you’re irreplaceable. Because you are.

 Attention Haters and Heartbreakers: To anyone who has broken my heart, my daughter’s heart, or the hearts of those I love this is your dedication: We don’t break easily. We rise. We grow. And we love harder than ever. You didn’t destroy us. You taught us. You made us stronger. So thank you.


Wear your colors proudly, Marisa. You are pink. You are purple. You are light, softness, fire, and wisdom all in one soul. And you are loved. Forever.

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